On September 1st, Ian’s mom said something that sent chills down my spine, and lingers in my mind. She said, “Nothing changes, if nothing changes.” Say that out loud and think about that for a second. How insanely true is that? Sometimes we want something so bad, but really aren’t willing to take the necessary steps to earn that something. With an overwhelming sense of entitlement that seems more and more prevalent in our youth, I stop and think about the importance behind teaching our students to make the space and the time for changes to occur. In the most elementary example, a student who wants to earn an A on an assessment, but is currently earning a C, has to make the necessary changes to find the desired outcome. In a more metaphorical way of looking at this, I go to my time with Ian. Ian struggled with addiction; and Ian knew quite well that if nothing changed, nothing will change. Ian was trying very hard to make the changes in every aspect of his life, but unfortunately he couldn’t move past the addiction.
It is time that we as a society embrace that if nothing changes, nothing will change and we will continue to turn a blind eye to taboo topics; we will continue to think that even selective ignorance is bliss; we will continue to let our children, and their children believe that they don’t have to toil through the hard, grueling dirty work to find their health, their happiness, but most importantly themselves. We must do this NOW. There is no better time than now to encourage our loved one to see the beauty in change.